I approach this puzzle through the lens of personality and willingness. Every time I meet a couple who is struggling in some parts of their marriage or relationship, I invariably hear some odd version of - I love him/ her but… Most people try to make sense of their partner’s personality through their own understanding of right and wrong, good or bad, correct and incorrect, moral and immoral. 

Most people I meet feel sound disheartened, let down or bored in their relationships. 

Graphologically speaking, people date or even fall in love with their partner’s signatures which is their public, social or even crafted formal image - we all have have at least one if not more, but they feel trapped as they have to live with their partner’s  handwriting which is the real, flawed and imperfect personality.  

The lockdown saga has been an eye opener for many couples. It firmly held the mirror in front of us, and forced us to look at some undesirable but essential nuggets of truth. If you are worked up, stressed or even bored in your intimate relationship, then you know we can’t simply ignore it. They are complex, unpredictable and anarchic nature can become a way to our self discovery and self growth.